What Setting a Boundary Looks Like

There are many different ways to set boundaries and many different reasons to set them. So, here is a clear, direct example of what setting a boundary may look and sound like.

In case no one has told you recently...you are under no obligation to share things about your life that you don't want to just because someone asked you about it.

Especially for the people pleasers out there, this will likely feel very uncomfortable to choose your peace and privacy over the comfort of another person.

But you have ZERO obligation to share things with people just because they ask about them. EVEN if you love and trust them and they mean well. But ESPECIALLY if they don’t.

What you can say instead? “I’m not comfortable talking about that right now”. The more you practice this, the less scary it will be.

And it’s worth navigating through that discomfort over the next day anxiety you’ll feel for having betrayed yourself by sharing things you didn’t want to. It’s worth navigating through that discomfort of choosing and taking care of yourself vs. the next day anxiety you’ll feel for having betrayed yourself by constantly putting others before you at the expense of your health, well-being and peace.

One is healing and ultimately gets easier the more you practice.

The other keeps you stuck in a continual loop of depletion, anxiety, shame and fear.

Which hard do you want to choose?

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